Marriage... PART 2 NEW VIEWS !

      

      I once did a blog entry entitled "MARRIAGE".  In this entry, I actually aired my very strong and negative views on marriage its self.  Well, life is so short and I have had quite a change of heart on this sensitive subject matter since then... 

      The fact is...  All of my life, up until the recent past (as I have re-entered the dating scene), I was bitter, full of fear and very mistrusting (being more Realistic than Optimistic)...  I have witnessed so many broken and tough marriages in my lifetime.  I myself have had my own woes and growing pains...  It was a combination of things that lead me to have a lifelong negative view of Marriage.  I recently have taken another look at this subject matter with a whole new outlook...  

      I now believe that 2 people really need to seriously take a hard look at each other "BEFORE" entering into such a serious commitment.  Not that you shouldn't...  It's just that, people these days always RUSH into such a serious life long agreement without truly evaluation the level of loyalty, devotion and commitment involved.  I myself have done many YouTube videos on "Dating".  I myself know how important it is to evaluate a potential partner in life.  You really have to know exactly what you want (and equally what you don't) and realize that marriage its self is all about : COMPROMISE !  Until you realize that fact, I would not advise anyone to enter into any binding agreement. 

      Having said that...  I now officially retract my old negative statements about marriage.  I in fact "DO" want to get married in the future.  I know that it will NOT be easy but I am certainly willing to take that chance.  I want happiness shared with someone special.  Whom ever that is will remain to be seen in the future...?  Here are 2 things that I "DO" know : 1. I know what I want in a potential future wife.  I know "WHO" I am looking for...  2. I am willing to compromise (that is what marriage is all about, right?).  There is NO such thing as perfection, However...  I ACTUALLY Have a "List of Wife Qualifications".  I'm NOT kidding on that...  I hope to someday have a "Traditional" Church wedding and a future wife who shares my views and values on family, life and togetherness.  I "AM" looking for "HER".  Where is she ?  I know that "She" is out there somewhere.  I "AM" looking for "HER"...  

 

AGAIN, I ASK : WHERE IS SHE ?

      
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Marriage…

      I did it ONCE…  I swore that I would ONLY EVER DO IT ONCE (If ever at all) !  I did the UNthinkable…  I foolishly got married when I was just 22 years young.  I did it for absolutely all the wrong reasons and certainly with the wrong person.  Still, I was very happy to be a married and settled man !  

      NOW, I am 38 and not wanting to be “LEGALLY BINNED"  to another human being.  I no longer know if “True Love” really exist, nor do I think I am capable of fully loving someone 100% due to my past marital scars that is still affecting me and always will.  The thing is…  There is someone that I think highly of, who is special to me and I do not know if I can give my all to this person (or anyone else for that matter).  This person would definitely LOVE the idea of Marriage as I also "once did", but not anymore.  My question is : Can 2 people stay together and remain a couple without the “PUSH” for marriage ?  Can 2 people remain lovers, best friends or Boy / Girl friend without the “NEED” or “FEEL” to become Legally Attached to each other ?  Can to people just be together and enjoy each other without the PRESSURES to be or look “Official” by society’s eyes ?

      I am definitely not wanting to ever get myself back into a “Legal Attachment” ever again in life.  I just hope that a good woman can accept this and just love me anyway !  If not, then I shall remain alone forever.  I do NOT want to be alone, but I may have no other choice.  I believe that everyone deserves to be loved and appreciated.  I certainly want to be loved and not grow old alone.  So, I would like to have a “Companion” in life but I just don’t think marriage will work for me ever again especially since I have a lot of deep emotional wounds and scars from my prior marriage.  I just can never go through that hell and torment ever again or allow myself to be subjected to that mindset and vulnerability.  DIVORCE…  The only thing wrong with it, is the MARRIAGE !         

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